The Perfect Size – does not exist

A segment on the channel 7 program Sunday Night once again brought up the debate on Mothers having to lose their baby weight fast once giving birth. This one resonates with me personally at the moment having given birth to my third child only 7 weeks ago.  And as a personal trainer and nutritionist myself I still find this a completely frustrating topic.

There is no doubt immense pressure on mothers to get back to that “perfect” body to fit into society and be accepted.  You just need to read the latest Women’s Weekly article or celebrity social media post to see how quickly so and so got her beach body back for the next role and everyone is praising them.  However, we never talk about the amazing thing many women’s bodies have been given the absolute privilege to do and that is to create a human being.  To the fellow Mum’s out there, when was the last time you looked in the mirror and instead of maybe shaming yourself did you actually look at yourself and say “Far out this body made that miracle”.  I still look at my children, and obviously more recently my third child and can’t get over the fact that my body made her, I provided her food and shelter for 9 months and now I am incredibly lucky to have 3 adorable children (ha not always adorable, can drive insane) in my world.  Sure, as a fitness trainer I also think about how I will get back into the exercise regime for my health and the health of my children as I want them to understand that healthy living is a lifestyle choice and not a chore.

But before I do that I also understand that everyone is different and there is not one perfect body that fits all.  After having my first child I will admit it was a lot easier to get my pre-baby body back.    However, I had 1 child which meant I had time to run our business in between naps and exercise with her in the pram and when hubby got home I would get out for some “me” time and go for that run.  I would be lying too if I didn’t If I didn’t admit to feeling the pressure of getting back into shape being a fitness trainer.  My clients didn’t put this pressure on me but society did.  It made me think my clients would judge me if I didn’t head back to work looking fit and healthy, perhaps head elsewhere if I didn’t look like I had it all together after having a baby.   However, second time around I forgot all of this and it became harder to get back into the regime, hubby worked more, my children never slept and life got a whole lot foggier! Third time around, I expect it will be even harder but when I am ready I will up my regime, set a goal and give my self time to achieve that goal, not an unrealistic time frame and I will not measure it by the number on the scales.  I won’t let anyone this time make me feel I have a time limit on these things.

As new mums and mums of many children, we also need support.  First time mums definitely need this to understand what the hell they got themselves into but mums of many children need this support too! And as Mums we don’t need to be shaming each other and comparing ourselves when it comes to health and fitness, to other mums.  Everyone else leads very different lives too, some many have more support than others which leads to less time for “YOU” which can really impact your road to getting back on track.  I do find it hard to follow some of the mum forums that I do asking “how do I lose this baby weight?” “what diet worked for you” and the lists of names and programs that appear are endless.  Funnily enough when you offer practical sustainable advice it is not as well received as that “QUICK FIX”.

We need to remember that to feel comfortable in our own skin again after having a baby takes time, patience and acceptance.  Your body will always be different to what it once was but with some commitment (whatever that looks like in between sleepless nights, unsettled days and tantrums) YOU WILL GET THERE!!! But you also need to enjoy life, enjoy the little humans you’ve created, ask for help and accept that you will get there it will just take time.

 

 

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International No Diet Day

Today is a day to accept ourselves for who we are and be rid of the obsessions of a particular body image that comes with diet after diet.  To start understanding that each and everyone one of us are different for a reason and we should simply love and respect the body we have been given.  Perhaps today is about  starting to educate ourselves on how we can live a happy and healthy lifestyle and how we can teach and help those we love around us to do the same.

Don’t use today as an excuse to let yourself go, but today take the time to reflect and write down what it is you really love about yourself, what changes you may need to endure to run a successful health and fitness campaign so you can enjoy more time with your children, your partner, parents and friends.

For more information on International No Diet Day – go to better health channel

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I have realised having a child it really makes you stop and observe the world around you a little bit more.  You have to be careful with the way you behave and speak as essentially you are their mentor.  You start questioning your philosphoies in life because one day they will too.  For me it was also important to look at how my husband and i went about our life, health and fitness is important to us, i would go as far as saying it is a passion, and so i wanted to ensure that our lives portrayed that for our little girl.  We are going to be encouraging and educating her on making smart food choices, so i had to make sure we were making the right ones also.  Hand in hand goes exercise and although this is our business it is our way of life.

I have recently started running workshops in schools, mostly aimed at 11-15 year olds at this stage, that basically teach them about healthy eating, physical activity and making smart choices.  They have so many questions and enthusiasm that it keeps igniting my passion to get out there and spread the word, so with this and the important role i have as the mother to my little girl – this blog is born.

.  I thought this was not only a great way to keep a journal of my thoughts but perhaps share my knowledge with those that have a passion for health and fitness – particularly nutrition like myself, other mothers/mothers to be that need help or would like to share thoughts/ideas on how to best educate themselves and their children.  For the adult out there that has tried everything and just can’t seem to get anywhere with finding the right ‘lifestyle

Here together we can explore current trends and simply spread the word on how to lead a healthy lifestyle.

I look forward to having you along with me on this journey and welcome your contributions.

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